Unforgiveness against anyone harms my relationship with everyone.
Unforgiveness becomes anger. Anger moves to bitterness. Bitterness becomes depression and then you feel isolated and cut off from everyone.
Ephesians 4:32 Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, as God in Christ forgave you.
I think of Soul Velcro as the forgiving spiritual connective tissue inside the human heart. If you have difficulty making deep and lasting soul connections, check your heart for unforgiveness. There are only two kinds of old married couples. There are unforgiving old bitter cynics and brokenhearted lovers that never give up on each other until they succeed. A good Marriage is simply the union of two forgivers.
I also think that forgiving is like experiencing a death or loss that needs sometimes to go through the grief cycle. When I have to give forgiveness, I have to submit to the necessary experience of a long black tunnel of chaos and pain if I am to ever fully recover. I have to trust God that there will be an end to the emotional torment. I have to trust that he is able to comfort me and heal me and that is the only one who can do it. I have to believe that the other person who hurt me can’t give me what I want or need from them. I have to let them go and look to God first. I have to trust that he can heal me and help me overcome the destruction the other person has caused.
God’s plan and intention is to use the injury to make me a different person. That’s also the reason it still hurts. It hurts because I am still in the process of coming in line with God’s purpose for the injury. I have to give in to God and cooperate with the direction the pain it taking me.
Injury + Forgiveness = Gods Gift and Blessing For Me.
The injury digs a hole in my life to make me a much deeper person. I only survive if that hole is now daily filled with Gods love. The new trench in my soul can become become like a French drain of forgiveness that now channels all future pain to Christ himself in the depth of my soul.
Those who have been deeply or often injured need a well worn drain of grace that always delivers the sorrow, pain and sadness to Christ on the Cross.
It is similar to the way a lightening rod takes the fierceness of the strike and sends it harmlessly to the ground.
Any unforgiveness from my past will make me unable to stick closely to the ones I love, especially my spouse, and Family. Unforgiveness will eventually isolate me and leave me wondering why I feel so disconnected and unloved.
This sermon just got downloaded today as fast as I could type. It’s the one I needed today for my own life. I felt like a huge weight got lifted when I received this word from God. I had felt that I had some extra spiritual weight lately and I wasn’t sure what to do about it until now.